Admit what parenting is really like

It’s OK to admit that you don’t love every moment of being a parent.

People often feel the need to keep up the charade that parenting is amazing and they love their new role and that all of their days are filled with rainbows.

The default reply to how are you is often good or really good and at worse fine.

What this does is set up unrealistic expectations for other parents.

For parents who have had a long struggle to get pregnant/ have a baby the feeling of needing to pretend everything is amazing is even worse.

When a new parent has a bad day they often assume that it is because they are doing something wrong or that there is something wrong with the baby. An extra layer of guilt is added to their already full plate. They start to question why they are finding it so hard when everyone around them loves it. They may question if they are bad parents because they aren't enjoying every aspect of their new role.

Why when everyone around you is claiming how much they love parenting would you want to admit that actually sometimes you wonder why on earth you thought having a baby would be a good idea especially in those early sleep deprived days.

Let’s start being more honest about our experiences of parenting. It’s OK to admit that there are good and bad bits.

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