Being a new parent can hit you like a sledge hammer.  It can feel incredibly lonely and isolating at times. Especially if you are an introvert. Throw being a people pleaser into the mix and you have a recipe for disaster. Trust me, I know from personal experience.

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That's why I help introverted people pleasing mums to enjoy parenting and life.

 

I was once you, I've travelled your path and I want to save you the heartache and tears. Why suffer when there is a better way? You owe it to yourself and your children to live a fulfilled life. 

 

How did I deal with life before? Quite frankly, I didn't. I avoided and hid from life. I used to wake up with a sense of dread. Just existing and living was a chore. It was another thing on the to-do list to drag myself out of bed and live that same groundhog day yet again, knowing that I would be miserable, knowing that it wasn't acceptable to say that I needed help. 

 

I'd followed all of society's rules and did the ‘right’ thing. I didn't even like society's rules. And then when I followed their path and got to my final destination I said to myself, is this it? All of the sacrifices I've made, and this is the payback. This is my reward. So I put on my mask and carried on. I was snappy, miserable and felt like I was failing in all areas of life. I watched helplessly as the goal posts society set kept moving further out of reach. I binge watched rubbish TV looking for escapism. I'd waste money on cheap fads claiming that they'd rescue me. I'd waste money on low budget items. That I could justify because it was only a few pounds here and there. I'd buy new clothes all the time hoping that when I put on those new clothes, I'd be putting on a new self. 

 

I never got the results that I wanted. 

 

One day I heard a comment that changed everything for me, ‘You know what to do.’ Those words weren’t aimed at me or my current situation but they set my brain off on a mission. Like dominoes, one memory led to another and another. I remembered that from my previous training and education I already had all of the tools and strategies I required and just needed to apply them to my current situation.

 

What followed was a messy experimental journey putting all of my skills and  knowledge into practice. I learnt to put myself first, learnt to say no. I tapped into my teaching and childhood development background, and started trusting that the things I wanted to do with my children were the right things to do. I realised the things that society was telling me I should be doing would do untold damage to my children. I learnt to trust myself. 

 

With each new thing I implemented, my life started to transform. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with my children as I had the mental space to be fully present. Life became so much easier. I was free to enjoy all of the things that previously left me feeling trapped. 

 

I’ve wrapped all of this learning up into clear, manageable, practical steps that you can implement in your current life, not a life where you need to live on a mountain and drink wheatgrass all day. These are things that you can implement in your real life as it is now. You don't need to win the lottery. You don't need to give away your kids. By following the steps you can avoid all of the mess and jump straight to the good bit. You will find ecstasy in your life exactly as it is. I'm going to protect you from blindly walking into situations that you know make you unhappy. I'm going to make you the expert in your own life. To be the writer, director and star of your own show. You will learn how to enjoy life, not endure it!

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If you are ready to learn how to enjoy life you can book on a course with me by clicking here.

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If you are interested but aren't sure if this is quite right for you then click here to arrange an exploration clarity call.